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  • Writer's pictureAmi Kassar

AmiSight 8/24: You Can’t Make This **** Up

Our company is actively recruiting, and I have been texting back and forth with a candidate for an open position. I woke up to the following text from his girlfriend this weekend.


"Hi, Ami. My name is XXXX. I am "the candidates" girlfriend of 5.5 years. He doesn't know that I know he has been talking to you. I figured it out last night; I am in no way upset with you. I am sure he lied to you about having a girlfriend. I'm asking if you can please call me so we can talk. I am very upset with him and hurt. I have a few questions. It is very important to me … if you have a heart for a broken one. Thank you."


So friends, what do I do now 😊😊

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Michael Jarrett
Michael Jarrett
Aug 25, 2022

While I enjoyed the story, I think that you have to consider this carefully, as with any HR matter. My suggestion would be that you reply back to her and indicate who you are and that you are discussing an employment position. Maybe put a (he/him) after your signature. Then, I would reply back to him indicating that you received the text and there is some misunderstanding -- and leave it at that. You will learn a lot about the individual about how he responds to the issue.


That is based on the idea that he is a very strong candidate. If he's marginal, I would agree with the "Run Very Fast." advice. Can you post how it all comes…

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akassar
akassar
Aug 25, 2022
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Nice note. I did reply right away and explained the siituation and she was embarassed and begged me not to tell him. But then I decided that since it was in his court to get back to me - it would be up to him and I would no longer pursue a meeting. I have not heard back as of yet.

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Rhonda Sparks
Rhonda Sparks
Aug 24, 2022

Oh heavens … That’s classic. Maybe you need to make sure your text conversations don’t sound like you went out on a date! 😂😂😂

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Marie Kimmes
Marie Kimmes
Aug 24, 2022

I think that she believes that you are a woman that he has been talking (cheating) with. I bet she has no idea that you are an employer that he has been speaking with.


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Coleman McDonald
Coleman McDonald
Aug 24, 2022

Wait, does she think you're another girl and has the wrong idea? I guess I could see how interview related texts might look like two people courting: "when are you free to meet", " I enjoyed our last conversation", etc.


Or, does she really think her boyfriend has done something wrong by interviewing for a new job without having her involves?

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Marie Kimmes
Marie Kimmes
Aug 24, 2022
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I completely agree!

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Dan Shogren
Dan Shogren
Aug 24, 2022

Look on the bright side - - at least it wasn't a text from his mother with essentially the same message . . .

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